Hanami

I flew into Narita airport outside of Tokyo and tried to figure out how to get to Kyoto. This was kind of difficult because every time I have landed in a country or entered a new country by bus I would always stay a day or two in whatever town I entered in order to acclimate myself to the new country. This was not the case in Tokyo. I only have one week in Japan and wanted to spend as much time as possible in Kyoto. I inquired how much it was for a train and was told 1980 yen, which is close to 200$ for a five hour trip. Holy shit, this would cost about 20$ at the most in any other country I had been to, so this was a rude welcome to Japan.

I ended up getting a train to Tokyo station and I figured I could get a bus from there. I arrived in Tokyo station and then walked around the station for an hour trying to find information on the buses. The tourist information system was closed, so I tried to inquire from policeman and other personel, but it was difficult because I did not see many people who seemed to work there and the ones I did ask did not speak such good English, so I had some trouble finding the bus station.

I finally found the over night bus station. I secured a ticket to Kyoto for 50$. This would have cost me around 5$ in Thailand. I called Liz and told her I would be arriving at 5am. I then ordered a double quarter pounder meal as I was starving. I ordered it in English confident that the clerk would understand. She got a confused look on her face and pointed to a little menu and motioned for me to point to the combo meal that I wanted. My first reaction to the people I have talked to in Japan was that many did not understand English as much as I thought they would. I guess in my ethnocentric way of thinking I figured that Japanese people would understand English better than the other countries I have been to because they are more developed and therefore more worldly and therefore understand better English. This does not seem the case although it is difficult to judge this in only a week.

I was really tired as I had been up since 6am. I had a little bit of water in my water bottle and drank a little bit of it. Then I smoked a cigarette while waiting for the train to depart. I ashed in my water bottle and deposited my butt into the little amount of water remaining. Then I went to look for a trash can. Just before throwing away the bottle I decided I was thirsty and took a swig forgetting that I had just ashed into it just one minute earlier and got a rude surprise.

I got on the bus and we took off. I got some sleep on the bus, but not much. The lady next to me slept the entire time. As soon as we started she bent over and only woke up a few times. I wish I could master this art as I cannot sleep on buses. I guess it may be from too much driving in the USA. My body is accustomed to staying awake while being in a moving vehicle. We arrived in Kyoto station at 4:30. I started talking to an Englishman who gave me half of his sandwich while I was waiting for Liz. Liz came and got me around 6am and we took off to her apartment in a steady drizzling rain. This rain actually started the blossoming of the famed cherry blossoms. It was a relief to see a familiar face after traveling for almost three months solo.

We arrived at her apartment and her boyfriend Rich welcomed me to Japan. They are both teaching English here in Japan and Liz is an ex-roommate of mine and I have met Rich several times in Chicago. They have been great sending emails to me during my trip, so it was great to see them. It was very strange because Rich and Liz are my first people that I have had an opportunity to tell stories from my travels. I would start telling them a story about a certain time, and then they would say “oh yeah, I remember that email.”

Rich had to work the first day, so he left and then after relaxing a bit, Liz and I took a little bike trip. We pedaled along this river and it was absolutely beautiful. I arrived in a good time as the cherry tree blossoms here in Kyoto have just started blooming. These trees lined the whole river and it was spectacular. Kyoto is kind of in a valley surrounded by tree covered mountains. It was really strange cruising along this river and seeing this spectacular scenery. You would forget that you were right in the middle of one of the biggest cities in Japan. Rich and Liz told me that Japan is really good at keeping beautiful natural places right in the heart of some of their biggest modern areas. The bird life along this river was fantastic too. There were many herons, egrets, cranes, and flocks of hawks flying over our heads. I have never seen a flock of hawks, but we saw one group of about 15-20 of them flying in circles above us.

The next day Liz and Rich both had off, so they took me to the botanical gardens of Kyoto. This place was just as beautiful as the river. There was a bunch of red tulips out in front of this huge arboretum and I have never seen such a bright red come from a flower before. We then entered the arboretum and this huge greenhouse had all these different rooms and each room contained a different climate. There was a tropic room with many jungle plants, trees, and flowers and even an arid desert room which had many cacti and plants from the desert southwest.

Japanese are of course famous for taking photographs. This is one stereotype that is well deserved. The park was full of men with tripods slung over their shoulders with several digital cameras hung around their neck and a backpack full of even more camera equipment like extra lenses and other photo accessories. At one point Rich was looking around for a person to take our picture together, but seeing no candidate decided to take a picture of Liz and I under a cherry blossom tree. An older fella saw this and approached Rich and offered to take the picture of all of us together. He looked through Rich’s camera and frowned. He motioned for us to turn to the other side of the trail because the light from the sun was not good where we wanted the picture taken. He was taking it upon himself to direct our photo. You do not argue about the light setting in a photograph with a Japanese man who has four cameras around his neck, so Rich, Liz, and I obediently turned to satisfy the Japanese man. He took the picture and it came out perfectly. We thanked him and he winked at us as if to say you got the right man to take your picture.

That night we rented movies. We rented the two best movies ever involving Japan. The first was Lost in Translation and the second was Karate Kid. Rich brought back a bottle of tsuntori whiskey, which was the whiskey that Bill Murray represented in the Lost in Translation film. What better way to celebrate Japan than by Bill Murray, Miyagee kicking ass, and Japanese whiskey.

The next day Liz had to work, so Rich and I visited some shrines and temples in the area. Kyoto has 1200 shrines and is considered the cultural capitol of Japan. The temples we visited were beautiful. One temple we went to was up near the top of a hill and it was surrounded by the omnipresent cherry trees in full blossom. We also saw the biggest cherry tree in Japan in this one park. My timing for coming here was incredible as Liz said the trees just started blooming. Rich and I saw a few geisha ladies walking around. They looked incredibly beautiful in their kimonos and their faces painted bright white. I was able to take a picture with two of them. Unfortunately, I somehow got the mature ones and not the beautiful ones we saw earlier. One of the geishas I took a picture with looked a little suspiciously like Herman Munster and the other looked like Grandpa.

After returning from the temples, we went back to the apartment and Liz was home. When the cherry blossoms are in bloom there is a festival here called Hanami. The festival basically consists of drinking underneath the cherry blossom trees. Rich and I were a little tired from our day, but Liz rallied us and we went back out to enjoy the Hanami festival. We met a bunch of Liz’s coworkers near the giant cherry tree. It was a mob scene. There were people everywhere. Rich had been told that the Hanami festival is one time you get to see the Japanese let their hair down. This seemed to be the case as their were drunk people everywhere. In fact, a few were being dragged out of the park by their friends.

Being kind of tired at first I was not in the most sociable mood, but the spirit of the festival along with a bottle of saki and a passed around bottle of vodka revived me. Soon I was happy and having a great time. Then a bunch of Japanese came over and tried to talk to us and offered us some beer and a bucket of some food. They did not speak very good English, but they were very friendly. One guy was completely drunk and we could not make any sense from what he was saying. There were a couple of very cute Japanese girls and one kept hiding her head and saying “very sorry” over and over because of her drunk friend. We then passed them the bottle of vodka and soon I was taking pictures of them and them with me. They are very into the peace symbol and I have a couple of pictures of being surrounded by this Japanese group with all of us throwing out the peace symbol. After each picture I took of them they would say “thank you very much.” I thought this was funny that they were thanking me for taking their picture. They were the cutest group of people I think I have ever met. When we were leaving I went and said goodbye and they all wanted to slap me five. They all yelled and said goodbye to me. Rich said man Ted, we have read about how easily you meet people for two and a half months and now we saw you in action.

Cambodia to Vietnam

The morning I got packed and ready to depart Cambodia. The gal at the front desk told me they would pick me up around 7am or 7:30. I was outside the hotel when the bartender walked up. This bartender told me she makes 14 US dollars a month for her salary. Evidently she does not get many tips because I tipped her 1$ the night before after having a couple of beers and she was confused when I gave her the tip. She held the dollar up and looked at it strangely, and I said “for you.” Then she smiled and thanked me.

She arrived around 7:30 and I saw her the night before cleaning up the bar around 10pm. Not only was she paid horribly, but she also had a very long day. When she saw that I was leaving she smiled and said “see you again.” As I was waiting for the bus a couple of very young kids came up in Buddhist monk clothing. There were four of them and each one said a little prayer in front of the hotel. When each was done with their prayer the proprietor of the hotel bowed down in front of each one and gave them a little treat. It looked like she was giving each a package of rama noodles or something like that. It was like a Buddhist trick or treat and in return for giving them food, they blessed the establishment.

As I was sitting waiting to leave Cambodia, I started to reflect on some observations I felt in this very strange land. One observation that occurred to me was that Cambodia was in dire need of another hero. Jayavarman VII is one of the most revered rulers in Cambodian history because under his rule he kicked the Thais (then called the Siamese) out who had briefly conquered the Angkor empire. This happened somewhere around the 12th or 13th century. The town of Siem Reap was named after this even as Siem Reap means Siam defeated. Since then their heroes have been few and far between. The closest thing would be Hang Ngor who survived the Killing Fields and won an Oscar as the best supporting actor in the movie the Killing Fields. He may have survived Cambodia’s Killing Fields, but he did not survive ours. He was shot and killed a number of years ago in Los Angeles in a robbery attempt.

The extent to which the Cambodians admire their ancient Angkor history is amazing and signs of this reverence can be witnessed everywhere. I was in the hot as the towering inferno market having a drink at this little café and started talking to the owner who happened to be sitting next to me. When I told him I had been to Angkor he said that Angkor was like their George Washington. The lonely planet mentions this too saying that many Cambodians feel very proud about these temples because if Cambodian people could build something as beautiful as that then they have something to be proud of. Angkor is also the name of their national beer, they have a cigarette brand named Angkor, and icons of the temples can be found everywhere.

This dedication to the past is all fine and good, but the sad thing is that this was over a thousand years ago, and there has been nothing great to come out of Cambodian history since. Then the Khmer Rouge came along and basically knock them back in history may be one hundred years with their ruthless killing and torture. Their adherence to the Angkor temples would be like Africa being really damn proud that they were the home of the first human beings. African countries might adopt a flag with a likeness of the bones of Lucy in the middle of it. I wonder if any African country brews a beer called Lucy beer or may be has a cigarette called Lucy strikes.

I left Cambodia today with very mixed feelings about the country. I have never been in a place so poor and it was definitely eye opening. I think Julia the bickering Canadian girl was right when she argued that Thailand is not third world. If Thailand is third-world then Cambodia is fifth-world.

Of course we have much to blame for this situation. In the early 1970s our government felt that the Vietnamese army was using Cambodia to hide and also as a supply route, so we decided to bomb Cambodia into the pre-Angkor days. I have seen some of the victims of this bombing begging on the Phnom Penh streets and it is horrific. When I was in the sweat your balls off market I was trying to walk through an area that was crowded with people. On one side was someone shopping and on the other side was this burn victim. She had half a face and worse she was wearing a tank top which revealed sickening burns all over her body. I had to walk through this constriction to get by and almost had to rub up against this poor gruesome woman. You cannot get very far in Cambodia without seeing someone with an arm or leg missing as there are still millions of unexploded land mines that litter this countryside. Lonely Planet warns not to stray off the beaten path when exploring in places not usually traveled.

The irony in Vietnam was that we were fighting to contain the communist threat, and we spawned an even worse regime in Cambodia. The result of the years of carpet bombing the Cambodian peasantry was to radicalize them against anything we represented like freedom and democracy and the following de-stabilization due to years of indiscriminate bombing allowed the insane regime of the Khmer Rouge to take power. It was kind of a reverse Marshall Plan. Instead of aiding countries that were thought to be weak economically and ripe for a communist takeover like Europe after World War II we bombed Cambodia into a weak economic country ripe for a radical takeover.

I had a lot of time to make these reflections because the bus I was waiting for had still not come, and I had been waiting there for over an hour. Since my reflections were not doing the world much good, and I finally had that this bus is never going to come feeling, I finally decided to stop reflecting and ask the girl at the hotel if the bus was usually this late. The girl at the hotel asked if I booked through them. I said yes and showed her the actual ticket. She said she would call. She made a phone call and had an excited and worried look on her face, but as soon as she got off the phone she assured me they would come. Suddenly, instead of a bus, a moto-bike driver approached me and said he would drive me to the bus station. He told me that he was sorry, but they forgot me. I drove on the back of this moto-bike with my huge backpack on. We stopped on the side of the road, and he pointed and said that is your bus. It was another mini bus, so I figured this was the pick up bus. I got on as it was completely full and we drove and drove and I soon realized this was my bus. That was the funny thing about traveling in Asia. The traveler was always the last to know about these things. The guy sitting next to me said they drove for an hour and that they then turned around because they forgot someone. I told him it was me that they had forgotten.

We then stopped at this ferry as there is no bridge over the Mekong River on this particular highway (only in Cambodia.) A few people on the bus departed at this point as they were taking a boat the rest of the way, which thankfully created space. After they left the bus, we had to wait for the ferry to come back from the other side. Meanwhile there were beggars and peddlers everywhere outside tapping on our window trying to get our attention. I bought a loaf of bread and water, but I did not need gum, sunglasses, and all the other crap they were selling. They were persistent and annoying. One kid tapped at the window and showed the man in front of me every single drink he had in his cooler twice. He would take coke out and tap on the window and the man would shrug no. Then he would take a bottle of mineral water out and tap the window and the man would frown no. Then he would take a pack of gum out and this persisted until he tried to sell everything in his little cart to the man in front of me They all had these vacant stares and it reminded me of being trapped in a van with a bunch of zombies like Dawn of the Dead or something like that outside waiting to eat us. We finally got through the ferry and on to the other side.

We hit the border and the Eastern border crossing of Cambodia was much easier than the Western border. It still took awhile, but it was a lot smoother and incredibly, no beggars. Plus, a cool front has hit SE Asia. Today it is only like 90 degrees with a nice breeze instead of the sticky 95 it has been lately. I did have some minor difficulty getting through as I had to complete an entry visa form three times for some reason. I had to duplicate the form exactly twice because they kept one copy and the other copy was kept by the tourist because when leaving the country the customs people would take the duplicate then. I only entered one copy so the customs man said I needed to duplicate the form. In the meantime I had loaned my pen out to another tourist, and he gave me a pen to complete the form. The pen was blue ink and my first form was done in black ink. When I showed him my two duplicate forms one was done in blue and one in black. When he saw this he frowned and gave me two new forms to complete because they had to be in the same color ink. I am not sure how the customs guy as I was exiting was to know that my entrance form was done in different color ink, but it is no use in arguing with these people because they have ultimate but temporary power over you so they must be appeased. I completed both forms again and smiled to my new friend and gave them to him and thanked him. He then finally allowed me to pass. Since I had now completed this form four times, I was now an expert. I should have stayed at the border and helped people complete the form for a fee. I could have been an entry/exit form consultant.

We piled on a big bus that took us the rest of the way to Ho Chi Minh City or Saigon. One of my best friends from high school Jon, married a beautiful Vietnamese girl named Christine. It so happens that her brother will be here in Saigon at the same time I will be. Once inside the city I was going to check into the same hotel as he was in. When I got there they said they were booked. I asked if Khoa Truong was there and the lady at the desk frowned and said they had no one by that name. I was perplexed because I had an email from both him and his sister with the address of the hotel. I got out his email and showed it to the clerk and she said “oh yes, Khoa Truong is here.” Apparently, I must have massacred the pronunciation of his name. He was currently in Hanoi, but would be returning the next day. Now that she knew that I was friends with Khoa, my troubles with the hotel were gone. She said she would give me his room until another was available for me later. So I put my things in his vacated room and am here at an internet cafe drinking a beer. Apparently, when I get back they will have my own room for me.

One of the first things I did when I got here was to book a boat tour to the Mekong River Delta. Since the tour started at 7:30am the next morning, and I had a long day, I wanted to get to bed early. I was just going to have a beer or two and some dinner and head back to the hotel for some much needed sleep.

I started walking up and down the backpacker area of Saigon for something to eat. It is interesting that every city I had been in has had a back packer tourist area part of town. Since many of the back packers are young people into hippy type activities, there is a kind of US counterculture aspect to the atmosphere at each of these places. It is kind of something like one might find on Haight-Ashbury Street in San Francisco. I felt like trying some Vietnamese food. Many of these places in the area I was in had more western cuisine, so I turned off on a side street and found a cafe where a few Vietnamese people were eating as well as a couple of tourists.

I had a Saigon beer and choose fried octopus with a sweet and sour sauce. The Vietnamese man next to me started asking me general questions where I was from, and I spoke to him until my food came. I was impressed with his English as it was perfect. Then I started talking to an English couple next to me. My food arrived and it was awesome. More of a spicy sweet and sour sauce than what we are used to and it was topped with many different kinds of vegetables.

The English lady next to me asked what I was eating and she ordered the same. We started to talk and they were really nice. She all of a sudden started talking about her son that was visiting Australia, and I smiled thinking she was going to start telling some story about how proud she was about her son. Instead she said he was in Australia for fourteen days then got sick and died, and she started crying. I was still smiling when I realized to my shock what she just said. I tried to console her, but there is no way to console someone for something like that happening. I told her that my brother had died when I was 16, and she then consoled me. I guess her son basically had a heart attack at age 28, and he was in almost perfect health according to her.

I was still kind of talking to this couple when another Vietnamese man next to me tapped on my knee and said he wanted to talk English with me to practice. I said ok, but I was a little worried because in Cambodia many people told me this and then asked for money, plus I was still talking to the couple next to me. He turned out to be a really nice guy though and he talked a little bit about remembering the American GIs being here.

The man who tapped my knee soon left without asking for any money to my relief, and I continued talking with his friend named Tho who was a Vietnamese businessman here in Saigon that worked for British Petroleum as a purchaser. This was the man that was talking to me before my food came. He learned English when he was seven from the GIs. All of a sudden another older Vietnamese gentleman approached and extended his hand and groped mine and held it and smiled at me. I thought this kind of odd, but I could sense that he was a nice person. He started talking in really broken English, and I had trouble understanding. Tho interpreted for me, and he told me that he was very happy to see foreigners talking with Vietnamese because this is an international city and he told me that he was happy I was here. I told him thanks and that I was happy to be here.

Through interpretation from Tho, I was able to discern that this older fellow used to be in the Navy, and apparently he trained in San Diego and Philadelphia prior to the Vietnam War. I had trouble understanding him as he talked in broken English and when he realized I was not understanding spoke Vietnamese so Tho could interpret. He then threw up his hands and declared “I love the American GI.” It was actually nice to hear this. We hear so many negative things about our army these days with the prison scandal and other things, so I was pleased that when he was in the presence of our troops that he must have been treated very nicely by our American soldiers. He had this beatific glow on his face as he remembered his time in America.

Tho was with a Pakistani tour guide that worked here in Saigon named Bobby, and all of us had a great political conversation and also a great conversation about different languages. I had finished my second beer and had forgotten all idea of going to bed early. The older guy bought everyone another round and we continued to discuss. Somehow we got on to the subject of world peace and Bobby the Pakistani excitedly yelled “what is peace?” Tho replied that peace is “within our mind, in the way we deal with others, and in our heart.” I could not agree with Tho more. We eventually began to wind down as I was tired from my journey from Cambodia earlier in the day. I was going to pay for my bill, but Tho would not let me and paid for both mine and Bobby’s and said it was his treat.

Bobby made some point that although he was foreign he was now local and had started to learn the language, so he was becoming less foreign here. He then said to me that I was really a foreigner. I agreed that this was true, but I said that I appreciated for one evening being treated as not a foreigner, but a human being by the first people I met in Vietnam. It was great to have such a positive first experience in this country. In Cambodia it was really weird, and I never felt like I had any positive communication with any local people. They were always trying too hard to please and wanted money, so it was difficult to interact with them. My first experience here was thankfully much different. I also learned quite a bit about Pakistan. We had a good conversation about Pakistani’s ruler President Mushareef. Apparently, President Mushareef cut his country’s debt in half by agreeing to lease out bases to the US. This has put him in hot water with some of the radical groups in his country, but economically, it has benefited the country tremendously, and Bobby really admired his diplomacy in this regard.

I got back to the hotel and just as I was getting in bed, Christine’s brother Khoa called, and he said he was still in Hanoi and would be back in Saigon the next day. As soon as he hung up the front desk then called and the most confusing conversation ensued. He said something about Khoa wanting to buy something for me and it was no problem, but I could not understand him and he could not understand me. We finally gave up. Then a minute later Khoa called back saying if I wanted anything to eat the front desk would take care of me. I thanked him and then went to bed.

Cambodia and the Temples of Angkor

The night before I was given my own room as the pilgrims here for Chinese New Year had started to go home. It was still crowded at the Temples, but the guest house had considerably thinned as many people left the next day for other guest houses closer to the Temples and to town. I woke up at 4:15 and pedaled through the Cambodian night to the Temples and was there by five am. Even though it was early, it was already very crowded. Many people awoke at the guest house early to get there as well. I saw Ollie and Harry as I was leaving. I think they were just returning from probably some crazy adventure.

Again the crowd at the temple was dominated by Japanese tourists, and I was amazed at how many people woke up for the daily event. I was able to find a comfortable place on the grass in front of the temple that was not too crowded. It was still completely dark by the time I arrived there. I was armed with both my digital camera and my 35mm. My 35mm at first would not even take a picture because of the darkness. The sunrise was spectacular and would have been gorgeous in of itself, but the fact that it was rising over one of the most famous temples in the world made the experience sublime. It was a bright reddish orange and the sight of the Cambodian sky behind the spires of Angkor is another sight I will never forget.

My grassy knoll in front of the temple was so comfortable that I was soon asleep. I woke up and the temple was desolate, as everyone had left. I had now fallen asleep at two of the most famous temples at Angkor. I only had 135 more to go. I got myself up and dodged the postcard peddlers near my bike and had an omelet and coffee for breakfast. The kids waited patiently for me to finish. They eyed me as I ate and a couple came up and talked to me while I was eating. One complimented me on my soul patch. When I got up to leave they began to antagonize me again while going back to the bike. It is really sad because they are such cute kids that I want to buy all their postcards, but I already have ten Angkor postcards and that is enough.

The roads around the main temples are broke down into two loops, and I basically rode my bike around both loops accomplishing over thirty miles in the hot Cambodian sun. The highlight for me was this one temple with giant jungle trees growing right out of the ruins of the temple. The giant roots of the trees wrap right around the giant rocks right into the ground. I revisited some of the temples I was at the day before and hit many others. Another highlight was the intricacy of some of the design. There is this one wall at the main Angkor temple where there is a depiction of an ancient battle. This wall is as long as may be fifty feet and the whole wall is etched with fighters, horseman, and weapons. It is really incredible.

I had intended in the morning to start the day watching the sunrise at the Angkor temple and finishing the day by hitting the sunset at Pnom Bakeng, but I realized early in the afternoon that this was way too ambitious. The hot sun was too much, and I decided to pack it in around 3pm and return to the guesthouse. On the way back to the guesthouse I stopped at this gas station for some cold lychee drinks. I bought two drinks and the store had a bar against the window with seats for eating and drinking. I sat and enjoyed my delicious lychee shake drink and also thoroughly enjoyed the cool air-conditioned room. I could drink one of these 12 ounce cans in literally seconds they were so good. As I entered the store a begging boy put his hands together and approached me. I walked right past him and into the store. As I was sitting by the window the begging boy came right into my line of view and pleaded for money, food, or a drink. I tried to ignore him, but he kept moving to try and get into my line of sight. He then moved to my bike and picked up my water that I had in the bucket and made a motion as if to ask if he could drink it. I made a go ahead gesture from inside the glass and he started to drink my water. This water was in my bucket all day and in being in the sun all day had become kind of putrid as I think some of the plastic from the bottle was melting. I felt pretty terrible at this point that he was drinking my hot, putrid water while I was enjoying this delicious lychee drink, so I drank half of the second drink and went outside to leave and gave him the other half of my lychee drink. At least he had something sweet to rinse the taste out of that horrible water out of his mouth.

I took a cold shower when I returned and then hit an internet café before returning back to the guest house for dinner. There was a full international contingent represented at the guest house when I returned. There were five Germans, two French, a Swiss, two Canadians, four Italians, and I was the lone American representative. We had a great conversation as we put away many Angkor beers.

One of the Germans there was named Jorg, and he had quite a story to tell. He had traveled around the world for a year with his video camera. He began to interview other travelers and ask them questions on why they were traveling and had them share a story or two. He ended up with over ninety hours of video tape when he returned to Germany. He took some of the tapes to several German stations pitching his idea to make the video into a little travel documentary to be aired on TV. One of the stations liked the idea, and he will soon be returning to Germany to edit his footage into a forty-five minute segment with the possibility of more to come if it is successful.

Three months into the trip, Jorg had fallen in love with a Thai girl from Kho Pha-Ngan. Kho Pha-Ngan is an island in the Gulf of Thailand. Even though he was smitten with this girl, he continued on his trip promising to return. When he left she was devastated, which in turn tore him up as well. They communicated often on the rest of his trip and as promised he returned nine months later hoping to rekindle the flame. Upon his return, she informed him that she had taken up with another German in his absence. She told him she was too torn up when he left, and although she loved him, she did not want to go through that again. It was now his turn to be devastated. He is now traveling with his father for awhile, and he is returning to Kho Pha-Ngan in a month to try and win her back, and I wish him the best.